When you make a decision, how often do you question it? Are you like me and question most decisions you make? No? Okay, well maybe this isn’t for you then. Yes? Oh then stay tuned.
Why do we question decisions?
I have learned that I question my decisions because I haven’t trusted myself. It’s a sad realization and a challenging one to overcome. It isn’t as easy as just starting to trust myself. There is work to be done to figure out why I don’t trust myself. Then there is work to start trusting myself, one decision at a time. Then there is the work to stop questioning the decisions I make.
I’ve done a lot of this work without realizing I’ve been doing it. In fact, I didn’t realize it until I heard of NQTD. I honestly can’t remember where I heard it, but I wrote it down. I knew this would make a huge difference in how I continue to grow. What is NQTD?
Never. Question. The. Decision.
I chose to eat that cupcake, don’t question the decision.
I chose not to get on the treadmill, don’t question the decision.
I chose to sit on my ass and binge on TV instead of writing or recording a video, don’t question the decision.
I chose to go out even those I didn’t want to, don’t question the decision.
Get the point?
As you start to trust yourself more and more, stop questioning decisions. No, it’s not easy to remember to not question things. If you can start with just one decision, start with not questioning just one decision today. It doesn’t matter what the decision is, just choose one.
Here are some steps that can help you work through why you might be questioning the decision:
- Stop yourself in your tracks
- Identify the decision you are questioning in detail
- Identify what feelings are attached to the questioning of the decision
- Write out or think through how it relates to trusting yourself
- Write out or think through what would happen if you didn’t question the decision
- Seriously, what is the absolute worst that can possibly happen?
- Now, stop questioning the fucking decision!!
If only point number seven was that easy, right?!
As you work through each decision that you question, it does become easier. It isn’t a quick process, but it is worth it.
I used to question simple things like telling someone within our family about something in my life, answering a coworker about what I did over the weekend, the food I was eating, or even the color I painted my toes. I look back and think that I started with the little decisions. Those were the easier ones to tell myself to stop questioning.
Something I do to help myself work on things is putting a wallpaper on my phone with a gentle, feeling generating reminder. Here is one to help you to stop questioning your decisions.