Why Failing Imperfectly?

When I was first creating this site and trying to come up with a name, I knew I wanted something that described my life. I have always been someone who tries to be utterly perfect for everyone. I was trying to be perfect in the sense that I wanted to be everything for everyone. While […]

Why Personal Development?

I thought I would take a moment to give you a little history on how I got here, to this blog, to wanting to become a life coach. It all started (damn I sound old) when I opened my mind to Beachbody coaching. Nope, I’m not selling you on anything, I am no longer selling […]

I Expect A Lot

I expect a lot. A lot from myself. A lot from others. I expect that people will show some fucking common courtesy and stop being dumb. Like, why do you feel the need to do a fucking U-turn right outside the crosswalk in front of Costco?!?! Seriously! My mother-in-law was with us when I was […]

Other People’s Opinions

I have lived most of my life trying to please what I thought were other people’s opinions of me. I lived in fear and shame because I never thought I could meet other people’s expectations. I made myself smaller and smaller and I bottled up all of my own personality so I could be liked. […]

Alcohol Part Three

I’ve talked about alcohol a bit over the past few months, mainly my decision to quit drinking and the emotions around it. Well, I had been getting the feeling of “why do I have to quit, why not just casually have a drink here or there?” so I let myself enjoy our recent vacation with […]

Cheerleader

Most of my life, I’ve always diminished my successes when I am speaking about them. Alright, all of my life. I have also diminished my health or personal issues.  When someone else congratulates me or brags about me with me around, I try to minimize the effect. Why? Because I haven’t wanted to stand out […]

Winning

Throughout our lives, we are so frequently in competition. Regardless of whether we are in competition with ourselves or someone else, winning is always the end game. The problem is that so many of us see winning as the only part of the game. It’s either you win or you lose. We easily forget that […]

What is the best thing that can happen?

Our immediate reaction to something new is usually “what’s the worst that can happen?” It is ingrained in our culture and everything about our lives to ask what is the worst thing that can happen. It is the glass half empty outlook. I’m going on a hike by myself, what’s the worst that can happen? […]

Fear

Fear is a topic that is everywhere I look this week. More than one of the coaches that I learn from have spoken about fear through one of their channels. With one coach, it’s just a focus of theirs. With more than one, yeah, it is something I need to talk about. I don’t know […]

Recovery

Recovery can mean many things to many people. It can be quick, or it can be a process. The most common thing I’m learning that most people in any kind of recovery face is misunderstanding by others. Then the feeling of loneliness. I was having a conversation with a friend yesterday, who is also recovering […]