Other People’s Opinions

I have lived most of my life trying to please what I thought were other people's opinions of me. I lived in fear and shame because I never thought I could meet other people's expectations. I made myself smaller and smaller and I bottled up all of my own personality so I could be liked.... Continue Reading →

Alcohol Part Three

I've talked about alcohol a bit over the past few months, mainly my decision to quit drinking and the emotions around it. Well, I had been getting the feeling of "why do I have to quit, why not just casually have a drink here or there?" so I let myself enjoy our recent vacation with... Continue Reading →

Cheerleader

Most of my life, I've always diminished my successes when I am speaking about them. Alright, all of my life. I have also diminished my health or personal issues.  When someone else congratulates me or brags about me with me around, I try to minimize the effect. Why? Because I haven't wanted to stand out... Continue Reading →

Winning

Throughout our lives, we are so frequently in competition. Regardless of whether we are in competition with ourselves or someone else, winning is always the end game. The problem is that so many of us see winning as the only part of the game. It's either you win or you lose. We easily forget that... Continue Reading →

Fear

Fear is a topic that is everywhere I look this week. More than one of the coaches that I learn from have spoken about fear through one of their channels. With one coach, it's just a focus of theirs. With more than one, yeah, it is something I need to talk about. I don't know... Continue Reading →

Recovery

Recovery can mean many things to many people. It can be quick, or it can be a process. The most common thing I'm learning that most people in any kind of recovery face is misunderstanding by others. Then the feeling of loneliness. I was having a conversation with a friend yesterday, who is also recovering... Continue Reading →

Defense

I don't remember where I first heard this quote, but it turned on a lightbulb for me. You see, I jump to defensiveness immediately. It doesn't matter if the statement is nothing is sarcasm, a compliment, or a deep conversation. Defensiveness is my first reaction. There are probably many different interpretations of this quote, but... Continue Reading →

Weight

Why do we care so much? Why do we berate ourselves about it? Why do we develop eating disorders to battle it? Why do we feel less than if we aren't a specific weight? Society. Social media. Movies. Hollywood. Modeling. Media. Everything we created as a society to put people front and center in our... Continue Reading →

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