I Need A Mentor

A Mentor

I need a mentor. You need a mentor. How the hell do I find a mentor?!

I’ve asked myself this question for years. I’ve always heard successful people talking about their mentors and how they recommend everyone having a mentor. But I didn’t know how to find one who would take me on as a mentee.

Do I just find someone that I look up to and ask? How do I know if they would be good? Who do I look up to? What kind of relationship are we supposed to have? Question after question prevented me from acquiring a mentor.

Until I learned that mentors don’t have to be people that you have a two-way conversation with. Wait, WHAT?!?!

My mind was blown when I heard Rachel Hollis explain who some of her mentors were and that she had never even talked to some of them. My mind was blown. You mean that I could have mentors who have no idea I even exist? Is that really a mentor then?

Um, yes. Yes it is. And if you can’t tell, Rachel Hollis is one of my mentors. And so is Dave Hollis, Trent Shelton, Brené Brown, Andrea Owen, Rachelle Croft, and Kevin and Sarah McCuiston. I’m sure I have a few others, but these are the ones I follow the closest.

Here’s the thing, the definition of a mentor is an experienced and trusted advisor. Nowhere does the definition state that the mentor has to know who you are or call you directly.

Here is why I refer to the above list of people as my mentors:

  1. They inspire me every day
  2. They teach me new habits and skills
  3. They provide resources to help me solve my own problems
  4. They communicate in a medium that I understand and relate to

I know that not everybody will view these one-sided relationships as a mentorship, but I do. I am a different person, a better person, because of the knowledge and insight they share. Whether it be from their books or their candid posts on social media, I am becoming a better version of myself because of what they share.

All of my mentors are in the personal development or overlanding space. I don’t have any that are in the project management space and that is okay. My list of mentors has evolved over the years as I’ve grown as a person. My mentors will continue to evolve.

No matter what medium you are looking for advice in, find a mentor. They don’t have to know who you are. You still can follow their work and learn from them. Find people who will challenge you to be a better version of yourself. Find people who will inspire you.

A mentorship relationship is what you want it to be. It doesn’t have to look like mine or anybody else’s.

Who are your mentors?

My Own Path

Dare to forge your own path.

When I first started out on this journey with this blog, I was under the impression that once I hit it big and was making good money, I would quit my project management career and be a full-time blogger. I then advanced that thought to becoming a well-respected life coach. Either way, I saw the only option of being a life coach as my path forward.

Every time I thought about it, I got an uneasy feeling in my stomach — but I love my career. I didn’t want to give up on being a life coach because I feel that I am called to share my life experiences and passion for helping others through this avenue, but I also didn’t want to give up on my career that I am also passionate about. Oh and then there is the overlanding passion that is blossoming. Why do I have to choose just one?

The answer is, I don’t. There is no reason that I have to choose just one. During one of Marie Forleo’s YouTube videos or in her book, she brought up the term ‘multi-passionate entrepreneur’. My heart exploded in fire. She explained how she didn’t want to do just one thing and that she had many passions. She struggled with choosing just one and came to the realization that she didn’t have to.

And that is where I am. I am going to be a well-respected life coach, overlander, and project manager who kicks ass at all of them. I’m going to kick ass in my own way. I’m not going to follow any well-defined path from any who have come before me. I will learn as I go and be who I am. I know that it may take longer to advance my life coaching and overlanding businesses while being a career project manager, but I’m okay with that.

I’m going to forge my own path and be all that I want to be. I don’t have to give up on one passion because I want to pursue another. At some point, my passions will probably cross and that is okay. Actually, that would be freaking awesome.

Hop on the train because this is going to be one wild ride. I’m pursuing three big passions and I’m not going to be perfect in any of them. I’m doing it the imperfect way. Are you going to come along for the ride and be an Imperfect Warrior who forges her/his own path?