We all have choices that we make every single day. Some choices are easy to make while others take a lot of consideration. Some determine the direction of our lives and others have minimal impact. But that’s the thing. Every choice we make has some kind of impact on our life. Your decision to read this post will have some impact on your life. You have the choice of whether it will be a beneficial impact or not.
With everything going on in our country and in the world, many have indicated they have no choice about the situation they are in. While there are so many situations where that is true, what is also true is the choice we make based on the situation we’ve been put in. For every situation we are put in, we have a choice. We have a decision to make. Are we going to take responsibility for our next step or are we going to let life happen to us?
I can tell you that throughout the last year and the first few weeks of this year, a lot of people have made some really awful choices that affected many others in countless ways. Those choices may or may not have impacted you, but our nation, our world, we are all aware of so many negligent choices that were made. While those are choices that people need to take responsibility for, those are not the choices I want to talk to you about today.
Today I want to talk about the choices that directly impact the quality of your life. I grew up with parents who blamed everything about their life and our situation as a family on everybody else. I’m so glad that I saw the situation for what it was: they made choices that they would never ever hold themselves accountable for or even consider that these choices were in fact their choices that they made. They made zero effort to take responsibility for or be in control of their lives.
That may sound harsh, but I’m being honest here. I have gotten to where I am in life both professionally and personally because I take responsibility for my actions and I am in control of my life and how I respond to life. Every choice I make, every decision I make is a reflection of me taking responsibility for my life.
When I decided to start drinking and having sex and smoking weed at the age of 14, that was a choice. I also made the choice at the same time to maintain my higher GPA all through high school. When I got to college, which was a choice in itself, I made the choice to let me grades be lower than I would typically have worked towards. I have made choices to get into relationships and out of relationships. I have made choices to start jobs and leave jobs. I have made a lot of choices in my life that have shaped my next moves.
I make choices on whether to respond to or not respond to text or social messages. I make choices about what I eat, what I wear, who I talk to, who I have in my inner circle, when or if I move my body for the day. I make daily decisions, weekly decisions, and decisions every minute. I have the choice to make these decisions. I take responsibility to make these decisions.
You have the same choices. You get to choose what decisions you make. You get to choose how to live your life. You get to choose whether or not to continuously complain about this thing or that. You get to choose how you let that layoff affect you. You get to choose how you react to that asshole who treated you shitty.
Do you get the point yet? Abbie M. Dale said “To decide, to be at the level of choice, is to take responsibility for your life and to be in control of your life.”
I know, going from not choosing to take responsibility to doing so sounds so foreign and like you need to move Mt. Everest. You don’t have to. Just as I’ve said in the past few posts, you just have to start making the choices, making the decisions, and start taking responsibility for and control of your life little by little. It’s not easy. I’m not going to sugarcoat it.
Did you get laid off this last year and still haven’t found a job? I know, it sucks!! But, what are you doing about it? Are you applying to every job you are qualified for and might be interested in? Are you being extremely picky about the job you apply for? Are you willing to take a job at a lower level or lower salary to get back into work and earning a salary or are you only looking for jobs at the same level or higher?
Did your ex leave you unexpectedly and now you are single? Either that sucks or it was a blessing, or both. You get to decide how you react and how you move forward. Is there something you had wanted to do but didn’t fit into your life with your ex? Now is the time to do it.
Are you not living the life you always imagined you’d be living? Why is that? What is missing? Have you even considered what is missing or are you just complaining that you don’t like your life? Make the fucking decision to take responsibility for living the life you want to live.
I am tired of being the most optimistic friend in my closest friend group. I am tired of being the most ambitious in that group. I stretched myself super thin with things I wanted to be my hobbies. I missed people I hadn’t talked to in a while. I have ALWAYS wanted to eat healthier. I feel SO much better when I move my body. A lot.
I have either made the choice to make changes or I am actively pursuing changes for all of those things. I have taken responsibility and am choosing to make changes.
Why haven’t you taken responsibility yet? Because it’s too hard? Is it more difficult and frustrating to live in a life you aren’t happy with or in a life that you feel refreshed by? You have the choice to live either, but are you going to make it.
It is time to make that choice. Take responsibility. You CAN do it.