I Forgive Myself

I can’t remember what I was doing when I heard this concept, but I was shocked. I felt dumb. Why hadn’t I thought of that? Why had I concerned myself more with forgiving other people than ever thinking about forgiving myself?

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Is Journaling Right For You?

We’ve all heard the recommendation to journal each day. Sometimes the recommendation is made to journal about your gratitude. Other times it’s to free-flow write about whatever comes to mind. And yet, other times, we are pushed to journal about everything we go through each day. Some people recommend journaling every morning. Others recommend every evening before you go to sleep. I’ve tried each of these methods multiple times, and not all of it has stuck with me.

I’ve tried writing in cute little notebooks or on an app on my phone. I’ve purchased structured journals and copied the structure into cute notebooks. I’ve tried structured apps and free-flow apps. Apps on my phone and computer. I was at a point where I was trying every method that I heard because I was trying to comply with every recommendation.

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Be A Legend In Your Own Mind

“Be A Legend In Your Own Mind” is chapter 28 in 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve by Andrea Owen that has stuck with me since I read it a few years ago. When I read that book, I created my own study guide to work through all of the topics I was reading about. This chapter is the one that stuck with me the most, and I printed the page from my study guide and hung it next to my makeup area. I see it every single day.

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Working Out

I want to talk about working out and all of the drama surrounding it as well as how working out has affected my life. With growing up being told I was big-boned and my ass being a frequent topic of conversation, I have always had body image issues. 

I got to my heaviest in 2011 after two years of traveling for the fraternity, and my primary food groups being beer and fast food. When I moved back to New Mexico, I was blessed to get a job at a place that had a gym and a trainer. I started losing weight and feeling great. I also walked miles each day around the building. I didn’t sit at a desk as I do now. I still ate like shit, but my activity was fantastic. When I say I was feeling great, I mainly was feeling great. I felt sick every night and couldn’t figure it out. Once I did figure it out, thanks to a great grandmother and grandmother, I realized I had genetically inherited celiac disease. Once I cut out all things gluten, I lost more weight.

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Where I Come From

Today I want to take a step back. I want to talk about where I came from because I know so many of you see where I am today and might be thinking that I have this perfect life or have had it pretty easy, but I haven’t.

I am about to turn 35 in a couple of weeks, and yes, right now in my life, I’d say that I have it pretty fucking good. My life is pretty easy at the moment. But it hasn’t always been.

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I Need To….

Last week, I briefly explained something that I want to walk through in more detail with you now. I started a thought by saying, “here’s what I need to do.” I immediately realized I was contradicting myself from a conversation that I had had just a few days before writing that post. I am starting to feel very strongly about the way we as a collective use the word need.

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Our Many Personalities

I feel like there is a stigma around the topic of having multiple personalities depending on our situation. As you heard that, I bet you thought of the mental health definition of multiple personality disorder, but that’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is the difference between our personality with one group of people or person compared to our personality with another person or group of people. 

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Me Time

I know you’ve heard a lot about me-time in recent years, but I want to talk about it today. I want to talk about it in reference to something I recently realized in my own life: my me time does not simply mean a couple of hours to myself. I need more.

When I was traveling for work, a couple of hours a day was all I needed. Well, that and a weekend day once in a while that had zero plans. But since I hadn’t traveled for work in a year and neither of us were taking our own small trips, I didn’t realize what made those couple of hours be enough.

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I’m One of Them

Have you ever thought or said to someone else, “don’t treat me differently, I’m just like them”? I have, and the who that defines the “them” for me is guys. For so many years, since being in high school and trying to fit in, I have focused on trying to be one of the guys. I’m not entirely sure what it was about being one of the guys back then, but I am starting to see it more clearly now for my adult life. I do know that a lot of what I’ve struggled with personally for the majority of my life is being seen as weak. I think a lot of us women struggle with this. That’s just one reason that we women try to be seen no differently than men.

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Do What It Takes

I want to talk about careers today. I’ve been doing so much personal growth, but I haven’t talked about the part of my personal growth that is impacted by my career growth. Some people may tell you that these two things are separate, but I disagree. When you grow personally, you grow in all things that you do. When you grow professionally, you are growing as a person as well. 

I’ve mentioned a couple of times that I was promoted at the end of 2020 and that I have a tall order to evolve the teams that I lead. There are a lot of quotes and definitions from many leaders and coaches about what makes a great leader and I can go blue in the face talking about those things, but today I want to talk about one thing that I think any good leader would do. That thing is doing what it takes. 

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