I am one of those people who typically likes to just get shit done. I can’t just sit around and procrastinate forever on hardly anything. I mean, I do procrastinate some, but then I get overwhelmed that that thing hasn’t been completed and just get it done. I push and push and push myself. I get my day job done and then take care of things around the house and make sure to get writing, reading, or workout time in as well. Oh and a few personal video chats as well.
It really doesn’t sound like that much. I mean, that is normal life stuff, right? Well, that normal life stuff can cause burnout. When I typically think of burnout, I think of 100 hour work weeks with grueling workouts and a crazy social calendar. I think of people who do so much more each day and sleep a lot less than I do. I don’t ever consider myself as a candidate for burnout.
I was talking to a friend the other day about goals and what we need to do to achieve them. We were specifically talking about the things we can do on social media to get more of a reach. He had mentioned that he doesn’t like being in his social pictures with his product because he doesn’t want someone to see him and not buy his product because he doesn’t think he is likable. For a minute I was flabbergasted because I don’t know how anyone wouldn’t like him, but then I realized, I’ve had similar thoughts. These are thoughts of comparison. We are comparing ourselves to those who have come before us in the industry that we are trying to break into.
For me, the comparison comes from years of bullying during school and from my parents. It also comes from years of me bullying myself because of my lack of self-esteem. For others, the root behind their comparison isn’t as easy to figure out. When we can’t easily figure out why we are comparing ourselves to others, we can go into a dark place and have a hell of a time getting out of it.
It’s never too late to change. It’s never too late to take back control of your life. It’s never too late to chase a new goal. It’s never too late to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
It’s Never Too Late.
A lot of people I knew growing up conveyed that they thought that everything they wanted to accomplish had to be done in their 20s. So, that’s what I thought too. I thought that if I was going to make something of my life, it absolutely had to be done in my 20s. If I got to 30 without being perfectly financially sound, having the job of my dreams, a house, a husband, a cool car, kids, etc., then I was a failure.
I don’t feel like it. You’ve said that a couple of times, right? Yeah, I thought so. Me too.
In fact, I thought that many times before actually sitting down to write this post. But here I am. I am writing this because I want to talk to you about getting shit done even when you don’t want to. Why is this important? Because if we always give in to the feeling of not wanting to do something, then we will never achieve our goals. We will always stay stuck.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be stuck. I want to achieve my goals.
I have a lot of things I want to get done and a lot of things that I want to achieve. I cannot actually do any of this if I give in every time that I don’t feel like it. How do I know this? Because I’ve spent years not feeling like it. Over those years, I have not achieved what I wanted to. I gave in to not being motivated and waiting for motivation to strike.
Motivation doesn’t always strike. Motivation may stay away for hours, days, weeks, or whatever. Motivation isn’t something that just happens. Motivation must be manufactured. You must manufacture your own motivation. Discipline. Discipline is what is required to be able to manufacture your motivation.
Discipline takes practice. Discipline takes work.
If you look at anybody that you admire because they are successful, the reason they are successful is that they are disciplined and make shit happen, even when they don’t feel like it. The only way to get from the point of dreaming up your goals is to actually do the work. You have to be disciplined and you have to do shit when you don’t feel like it.
Yes, the results you produce when you don’t feel like doing whatever it is you made yourself do anyways may not be the best results you’ve ever produced. Yes, you might have what you produced. But you did it. You were successful because you were disciplined enough to work towards your goals. And you know what? You learned. You learned what you didn’t want to write or what colors doing look good together or that you don’t like gardening so why do you even have a garden? Every time you are disciplined enough to get shit done, you learn, you grow, and you get one step closer to achieving your goals.
So what did you not feel like doing today? Why didn’t you do it? What would have happened if you actually exercised some discipline and just did it?
You might surprise yourself with those answers.
Next time you don’t want to do something, ask yourself, what awesomeness would come out of me actually getting this done?
We are full force into the holiday season and that brings either tremendous joy or immense stress, or both, for each of us. Today, I want to focus on how extended family impacts us.
As a child, we always got up and went for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. I do remember being able to open presents at home for Christmas, but we had to get moving and ready to hit the road. I don’t remember ever staying home for either of these holidays. As I got older and my parents divorced, holidays were split even more. I didn’t notice that I was bugged by not being home until I was an adult and lived in a different state from family and couldn’t afford to travel. I spent one Christmas by myself and it was so relaxing. It was refreshing.
November 26, 2020.Reading time less than 1 minute.
I want to take a moment and thank you for your dedication to reading this blog. Whether you are new here or you have read every post, I sincerely thank you. Today is a day about gratitude and I hope you take time to pause and show yourself some gratitude for who you are and what you’ve accomplished in life.
My husband and I were talking about something recently that hit a trigger of mine. The thing is, I hadn’t realized it was a trigger until after this situation. I can’t even remember what we were talking about, but I remember the feeling I had. It was the feeling that he was saying something in a tone or in a way that made him come off as though he was all-knowing and that my thought or my lack of knowledge on the subject brought out my stupidity. I felt like he was telling me I was stupid and his thought was the only thing that could be right.
Let me start this off by saying that I’m not using this post to tell you how to be healthy and I’m not giving any tips on how to lose weight. If that is what you are looking for, you won’t find it here. What I am talking about it is what I’m doing to make sure that I take care of myself first.
2020 has been a difficult year, nobody can deny that. With this difficult year, a lot of us have had to really get grounded in what we believe is important. For me, one thing has been my overall health. I started the year off not drinking and being impatient to get back to working out hard to get back to a specific weight. I was kind of working on my mental and emotional health, but not giving the effort I really wanted to. I wanted to start my new job off right and I did.
If you are anything like me, you are kinder to everyone but yourself. At least, that is what feels like your first nature. You care more about being kind to someone else because you don’t want to offend them. You are kinder to most strangers than you are to yourself. Sound like you? No, then this might not be the post for you unless you want to learn about someone you care about. It does sound like you? Let’s continue the conversation.
Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. I am generally automatically friendly, generous, and considerate to pretty much everybody. But, I can’t say that I am easily friendly, generous, or considerate to myself. This is something that I’m continually working on, but it doesn’t come naturally. But why? Why would I rather be kinder to other people?
I am not smart. I am not worthy. I am not capable. I am not deserving. I don’t work hard enough. I’m not from the right school or family. I am not.
I could go on and on about who or what I am not. In fact, I can bring up feelings of who I am not that I can’t even put words to. More often than not, I tell myself I am not something. Why? That is the negative, fixed mindset that I have overcome and continue to battle.