Last week I talked about criticism. This week I want to talk about self-criticism. I have spent as much of my life criticizing myself as I have been criticized by others. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “we are our own worst critic,” well it’s true. I am most definitely my own worst critic. But where did I learn how to be so critical?Read More
Others criticize us, but we also criticize ourselves. I’ve been the queen of self-criticism for years and am actively working to refrain how I speak to myself. Today I’m going to share my opinion on where I learned self-criticism and the steps I’m taking to overcome the majority of it.
“Be A Legend In Your Own Mind” is chapter 28 in 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve by Andrea Owen that has stuck with me since I read it a few years ago. When I read that book, I created my own study guide to work through all of the topics I was reading about. This chapter is the one that stuck with me the most, and I printed the page from my study guide and hung it next to my makeup area. I see it every single day.Read More
When we think of legends we think of people who are known across the world for one thing or another. Being a legend doesn’t mean you have to reach that level. Andrea Owen wrote a chapter in her book 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve that has impacted my life for the years since I read it. I want to share with you how it has impacted me.
I need a mentor. You need a mentor. How the hell do I find a mentor?!
I’ve asked myself this question for years. I’ve always heard successful people talking about their mentors and how they recommend everyone having a mentor. But I didn’t know how to find one who would take me on as a mentee.
Do I just find someone that I look up to and ask? How do I know if they would be good? Who do I look up to? What kind of relationship are we supposed to have? Question after question prevented me from acquiring a mentor.
Until I learned that mentors don’t have to be people that you have a two-way conversation with. Wait, WHAT?!?!
My mind was blown when I heard Rachel Hollis explain who some of her mentors were and that she had never even talked to some of them. My mind was blown. You mean that I could have mentors who have no idea I even exist? Is that really a mentor then?
Um, yes. Yes it is. And if you can’t tell, Rachel Hollis is one of my mentors. And so is Dave Hollis, Trent Shelton, Brené Brown, Andrea Owen, Rachelle Croft, and Kevin and Sarah McCuiston. I’m sure I have a few others, but these are the ones I follow the closest.
Here’s the thing, the definition of a mentor is an experienced and trusted advisor. Nowhere does the definition state that the mentor has to know who you are or call you directly.
Here is why I refer to the above list of people as my mentors:
- They inspire me every day
- They teach me new habits and skills
- They provide resources to help me solve my own problems
- They communicate in a medium that I understand and relate to
I know that not everybody will view these one-sided relationships as a mentorship, but I do. I am a different person, a better person, because of the knowledge and insight they share. Whether it be from their books or their candid posts on social media, I am becoming a better version of myself because of what they share.
All of my mentors are in the personal development or overlanding space. I don’t have any that are in the project management space and that is okay. My list of mentors has evolved over the years as I’ve grown as a person. My mentors will continue to evolve.
No matter what medium you are looking for advice in, find a mentor. They don’t have to know who you are. You still can follow their work and learn from them. Find people who will challenge you to be a better version of yourself. Find people who will inspire you.
A mentorship relationship is what you want it to be. It doesn’t have to look like mine or anybody else’s.
Who are your mentors?