I have been asking myself this a lot lately and haven’t been able to put my finger on a specific answer. Then I get more stressed because I can’t figure it out. Stress is a vicious cycle for me that comes out towards others. Stress is a battle I have fought all of my life and will continue to fight every single day. For … Read More Why Am I Stressed?
I wrote Fear: I Can’t Do What I Need in My Own Home a few months ago, but I have returned to this fear and to this struggle. This time is different. I offered to let a friend stay with us until her renters move out at the end of May. She has stayed with us for just about a month and it has been … Read More Follow Up: I Can’t Do What I Need in My Own Home
There is so much programming out there telling us to “follow your dreams” or “let your imagination run wild” or even “you can be anything your heart desires.” The problem with this programming is that it isn’t universal. Depending on where you grow up and where you come from, you might not have dreams, an imagination, or even know anything more than the small … Read More Dreams
All of my life, I was looking outside of myself for freedom to be myself or freedom to be successful or even just the freedom to be loved. As a child, I witnessed that all of these came from external sources. The primary example I had was that nothing good came to me if it wasn’t granted by someone else. I haven’t had the … Read More Freedom
…there is no way I could ever be like her. Have you ever thought that? I have. It is defeating. It is depressing. But there is so much wrong with that thought. It took me years to realize it and learn how to overcome it every time that I encountered it. Now, I see that others might be thinking the same thing about me. … Read More It’s Easy For Her…
Mediocrity is how so many of us live our lives. Mediocrity is how we fit in with society. We don’t want to be too over the top so people don’t judge us. We don’t want to fall behind because that life is hard. We want to be right in the middle because the middle is what is comfortable. Mediocrity is safe. Fuck mediocrity. I … Read More I Am Not Mediocre
Overthinking is what I do best. I can and will overthink for just about anything. It is truly a problem. Are you an overthinker? Overthinking affects our lives more than we probably would like to admit. We zero in and focus on a specific topic and think about all the possibilities. Usually, the possibilities that we think about are negative. Whether you are ruminating … Read More I’m An Overthinker
I am a very black and white person. It is or it isn’t. I only see gray on a few things, like my professional career. For most of my life, I ask the black and white questions: Can I do X without failing? This usually holds me back. It keeps me from exploring that thing that I might want to do. So when I … Read More Are You Asking The Right Questions?
I am me, regardless of my weight. I am me, regardless of my salary. I am me, regardless of my job. I am me, regardless of who my immediate family is. I am me and that is who I will be. I am me and I am learning to be comfortable with who I am. I have spent most of my life trying to be someone else. I … Read More I Am Me
All my life I have been afraid of failing. It has never been one thing specifically, rather, failing at anything and everything. The thing that I didn’t know and that you’ve probably heard over and over again, is that everyone who is successful has failed. They have failed repeatedly. Success doesn’t mean we don’t fail. Success means that we get back up after every … Read More Doubt Kills More Than Failure
Fear is a topic that is everywhere I look this week. More than one of the coaches that I learn from have spoken about fear through one of their channels. With one coach, it’s just a focus of theirs. With more than one, yeah, it is something I need to talk about. I don’t know if people are focusing on fear this week because … Read More Fear
Assumptions are my kryptonite. I frequently devise my own assumptions before I know truth. I have always battled my assumptions and I assume I always will. An assumption is defined as something that is accepted as true or certain to happen without proof. My assumptions are what Eddie and I disagree over the most. Eddie pretty much doesn’t ever assume anything. I tend to assume everything. One … Read More Assumptions