Go Your Own Way

I was recently browsing a Facebook group for a couple of different inspirational influencers that I follow and I was shocked at the hate that people were laying down for other people. It’s as though these people expected the influencer that they follow to stay in the lane that brought them to the influencer. My gut reaction was that I wanted to defend the influencer and tell them how rude they are being. Then I realized a couple of different things.

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Episode 4: Go Your Own Way

Failing Imperfectly
Episode 4: Go Your Own Way
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When we follow others, we open ourselves up for things that don’t serve us. It’s time to let those go and go your own way.

I Don’t Feel Like It

I don’t feel like it. You’ve said that a couple of times, right? Yeah, I thought so. Me too.

In fact, I thought that many times before actually sitting down to write this post. But here I am. I am writing this because I want to talk to you about getting shit done even when you don’t want to. Why is this important? Because if we always give in to the feeling of not wanting to do something, then we will never achieve our goals. We will always stay stuck.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be stuck. I want to achieve my goals.

I have a lot of things I want to get done and a lot of things that I want to achieve. I cannot actually do any of this if I give in every time that I don’t feel like it. How do I know this? Because I’ve spent years not feeling like it. Over those years, I have not achieved what I wanted to. I gave in to not being motivated and waiting for motivation to strike.

Motivation doesn’t always strike. Motivation may stay away for hours, days, weeks, or whatever. Motivation isn’t something that just happens. Motivation must be manufactured. You must manufacture your own motivation. Discipline. Discipline is what is required to be able to manufacture your motivation.

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments.

Jim Rohn

Discipline takes practice. Discipline takes work. 

If you look at anybody that you admire because they are successful, the reason they are successful is that they are disciplined and make shit happen, even when they don’t feel like it. The only way to get from the point of dreaming up your goals is to actually do the work. You have to be disciplined and you have to do shit when you don’t feel like it. 

Yes, the results you produce when you don’t feel like doing whatever it is you made yourself do anyways may not be the best results you’ve ever produced. Yes, you might have what you produced. But you did it. You were successful because you were disciplined enough to work towards your goals. And you know what? You learned. You learned what you didn’t want to write or what colors doing look good together or that you don’t like gardening so why do you even have a garden? Every time you are disciplined enough to get shit done, you learn, you grow, and you get one step closer to achieving your goals.

So what did you not feel like doing today? Why didn’t you do it? What would have happened if you actually exercised some discipline and just did it?

You might surprise yourself with those answers.

Next time you don’t want to do something, ask yourself, what awesomeness would come out of me actually getting this done?

Finding Motivation

Motivation is a bitch to find. Some days it is slapping us in the face and other days it is nowhere to be found. Days can go by before motivation shows up and then it disappears before it makes any kind of difference. Nothing can be done until motivation shows back up. Just waiting for motivation to come back.

Does this sound like you? Are you sitting around, waiting for motivation to do that thing you keep putting off? Why? Seriously, why are you waiting for motivation?

Motivation isn’t something you will always have. The top one percent of performers aren’t always motivated. Motivation doesn’t come natural to anybody, even that top performers. You know what comes naturally? Procrastination. Laziness. Waiting.

Life isn’t about finding the motivation to get things done or waiting for motivation to start working towards that goal. You have to manufacture motivation. You have to be consistent. You have to do that thing even when you don’t feel like it. If you keep waiting for motivation, if you keep waiting to feel like doing it, you will get nowhere.

How do I know? Fucking experience.

Ha, yeah right. I’m sitting here reading this blog. You have to be motivated to keep up the schedule of posting that you do.

No. I’m not motivated every single day to get a blog post written. I’m not motivated to share my thoughts all of the time. As I’m sitting here writing this post, I have procrastinated on my goals this week, including writing. I’ve talked to those close to me about starting a podcast. I’m not motivated to record audio, so I haven’t done it. Writing is easy, recording audio is not. Even though writing is easy, it takes effort. And truthfully, I may have just said it was easy, but it isn’t always. Sometime I can’t come up with anything to share with you. Sometimes I procrastinate because I’m in a mood and can’t figure out what to say.

I am not always motivated. The only reason you see such consistency with these posts is that I am determined. I am determined to put my thoughts and my learnings out there. I am determined to be the friend, sister, role model, mentor, confidant, whatever, that I never had until I started my own personal growth journey. Even if this is the only post you ever read of mine, my goal is that you take something away from it. This may sound like motivation and yes, it kind of is. But putting thoughts and feelings out to the world and people I don’t personally know is not motivating. It is scary.

Motivation doesn’t always show up in my life. Determination and consistency doesn’t always show up. Procrastination is a bigger player in my life than I care to admit. But you know what? Every time I push through that procrastination and get something done, my motivation meter fills up a little.

Whatever you keep putting off, whatever you want to do, just make it happen. Take the first step. One step at a time. That is all it takes. One step.