Have you ever thought or said to someone else, “don’t treat me differently, I’m just like them”? I have, and the who that defines the “them” for me is guys. For so many years, since being in high school and trying to fit in, I have focused on trying to be one of the guys. I’m not entirely sure what it was about being one of the guys back then, but I am starting to see it more clearly now for my adult life. I do know that a lot of what I’ve struggled with personally for the majority of my life is being seen as weak. I think a lot of us women struggle with this. That’s just one reason that we women try to be seen no differently than men.Read More
Have you ever thought “I need to be one of the guys to get to where I want to go”? I have and I talk about how I’m changing that mentality to embrace being myself and the woman that I am.
I want to talk about careers today. I’ve been doing so much personal growth, but I haven’t talked about the part of my personal growth that is impacted by my career growth. Some people may tell you that these two things are separate, but I disagree. When you grow personally, you grow in all things that you do. When you grow professionally, you are growing as a person as well.
I’ve mentioned a couple of times that I was promoted at the end of 2020 and that I have a tall order to evolve the teams that I lead. There are a lot of quotes and definitions from many leaders and coaches about what makes a great leader and I can go blue in the face talking about those things, but today I want to talk about one thing that I think any good leader would do. That thing is doing what it takes.Read More
Before I get started, get your mind out of the gutter!
In all seriousness, why do we make things seem as if they are so difficult? Well, because they are! Duh!!
Actually, no, they aren’t. They can be anything you want them to be. In my case for this episode, I’m going to talk about work and life in general. Now, I know that there are genuinely some problematic aspects to life; I’m not denying that. What I am referring to are the things that we can control and how we react to everything in life.Read More
Why is life so difficult? Why can’t we just get a break? There are things about life that we cannot help, but there are so many that we can. I’ll tell you how I am working to overcome my mindset about the difficulties in life.
In a recent post, I talked about my family. I kinda aired out some dirty laundry that might have taken many of you by surprise. I want to talk about one specific piece of that. I used to say I would never talk to my younger sister again. I didn’t want her in my life in any way. And that has been true for many years.More
Self-love and tranquility within is what we talked about last time. A big part of self-love is respecting oneself. When you ask Google to define self-respect, you are provided with this definition: pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity.
Those first two words, pride and confidence. Those words are like loaded guns for me. They signify words that had consequences with them throughout my younger years. Don’t be prideful. You can’t be proud of yourself, that’s not how it works. Stop being so overconfident and full of yourself. Your confidence comes off as you being a bitch. Those kinds of loaded guns.More
What does it mean to respect yourself? How do I respect myself? I talk about a few things I am serious about in making sure I show myself some respect.
Last time I talked about choices and how we have the choice to take responsibility and control for our lives. I also mentioned a tidbit about the choices I made as a teenager. Today I want to expand on that. This is going to be one of my most vulnerable posts to date and I do want to warn you that if you have struggled with any of the things I’m going to talk about today, this post might be a trigger. So what will I talk about? Sex, drugs, alcohol, and looking for love outside of myself. While some of these things might be a trigger for some of you, I am sharing in hopes that I remind you that you are not the only one and that there are others of us who have been there or are currently there.More
Loving oneself leads to so much freedom in life. But what if you don’t love yourself?