Kindness

If you are anything like me, you are kinder to everyone but yourself. At least, that is what feels like your first nature. You care more about being kind to someone else because you don’t want to offend them. You are kinder to most strangers than you are to yourself. Sound like you? No, then this might not be the post for you unless you want to learn about someone you care about. It does sound like you? Let’s continue the conversation.

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. I am generally automatically friendly, generous, and considerate to pretty much everybody. But, I can’t say that I am easily friendly, generous, or considerate to myself. This is something that I’m continually working on, but it doesn’t come naturally. But why? Why would I rather be kinder to other people?

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Let Your Inner You Come Out

Let your inner you out to have fun and come alive.

I’m not sure where I heard this, but it immediately resonated with me. I am one who has been extremely rigid in my way of living in the past few years. I cared so much about other people’s opinions that I didn’t let myself be myself. I wouldn’t laugh at some things, I tempered how loud I laughed, I let go of all of my sarcasm and wit. I became a person who didn’t want to offend or be considered weird or even stand out.

I boxed myself up and shoved me deep inside. I wasn’t living.

Then I heard this statement and I knew I needed to hear it in that moment. I immediately wrote it on a sticky note and stuck it to my monitor. Then I made a phone background and it is still there. I need a reminder every day to let myself be myself. I haven’t fully broken through the fear of leaning into who I truly am in every single situation. I’m working on it, but I have a long way to go.

I’ve been louder, I’ve laughed more, I’ve been sarcastic more. I’ve been open and honest with coworkers that I’m working on growth and that I appreciate and need their constructive criticism for the work I’m doing, even if I don’t change anything.

If you are anything like me, let yourself out. Have some fun. Fuck what other people say. You are a wonderful person that has hidden all that wonderfulness for far too long. Try a little each day to bring your inner you out to have some fun. And if you need a daily reminder, here is my phone background. There’s a lot of empty space because my main screen apps are around the text. I literally fit it to my app layout. No matter your layout, this will be a wonderful reminder for you too.

What would you do differently if you let your inner-self out to have some fun?